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Ideas

40 celebration of life ideas that put the person's stories at the center

A celebration of life remembers someone by celebrating how they lived. The gatherings people remember are rarely about decorations; they are about stories, the music the person loved, and seeing them through other people's eyes. Here are 40 ideas in six groups, from sharing stories to keeping them after the day, and a simple order for the gathering.

By Scribe MediaPublished October 30, 20266 minute read

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  1. Sharing stories (1 to 8)
  2. Memory tables and displays (9 to 15)
  3. Music, readings and words (16 to 21)
  4. Activities that honor what they loved (22 to 28)
  5. Keepsakes for guests (29 to 34)
  6. Keeping their story after the day (35 to 40)
  7. A simple order for the gathering

Sharing stories (ideas 1 to 8)

  1. An open microphone for short stories, with a gentle two-minute guide so many people can speak.
  2. Ask three people in advance to share one story each, so the open microphone has a warm start.
  3. Memory cards on every table with a prompt: "My favorite memory of them is..."
  4. A recording corner: a quiet spot with a phone on a stand where guests record a one-minute memory.
  5. A "finish the sentence" board: "They taught me...", "I'll never forget the time...", with sticky notes.
  6. Read their own words: a letter, an email, a card or a recording they made.
  7. Story rounds at each table, with one prompt card to start the conversation.
  8. A eulogy built from everyone's stories, gathered beforehand. The eulogy guide shows how.

Memory tables and displays (ideas 9 to 15)

  1. A memory table with the things that were most them: their glasses, a favorite mug, their tools, their apron.
  2. A photo timeline along one wall, from childhood to the last year.
  3. A slideshow playing quietly in the background, with photos sent in by guests.
  4. A map marking everywhere they lived, worked and traveled.
  5. Their handwriting: recipe cards, notes in margins, a birthday card.
  6. A display of their work or hobby: paintings, quilts, woodwork, trophies, garden photos.
  7. A "did you know" board of surprising facts about their life that even close friends might not know.

Music, readings and words (ideas 16 to 21)

  1. A playlist of their favorite songs, with a printed list so people can find them later.
  2. A live song they loved, played by a friend or family member.
  3. A reading from a book, poem or scripture that mattered to them.
  4. Their favorite sayings printed on cards or a banner.
  5. A short reading of their ethical will or a letter they left, if they wrote one. See what an ethical will is.
  6. A toast with their favorite drink, led by someone who knew them well.

Activities that honor what they loved (ideas 22 to 28)

  1. Hold it somewhere they loved: a park, a beach, their garden, a favorite restaurant.
  2. Serve their food: their signature dish, made from their recipe card.
  3. Do the thing they loved together: a short walk on their trail, a round of their card game, a sing-along.
  4. A service project for a cause they cared about, on the day or the week after.
  5. Plant something: a tree, bulbs or seeds handed out for guests to plant at home.
  6. A dress code that is them: their favorite color, their team's jersey, Hawaiian shirts.
  7. A children's table with drawing prompts: "Draw a picture of them" or "Draw your favorite day with them."

Keepsakes for guests (ideas 29 to 34)

  1. Printed recipe cards of their best-known dish.
  2. Seed packets of their favorite flower.
  3. A bookmark with a photo and one of their sayings.
  4. A small program with a short life story, a photo and the playlist.
  5. One of their things to take home, such as books from their shelves, each with a note inside.
  6. A link or QR code to an online page where guests can add photos and memories afterward.

Keeping their story after the day (ideas 35 to 40)

  1. Collect every memory card and story into one folder for the family.
  2. Keep the recordings, backed up in two places, and get them transcribed. The transcription options guide compares the ways to do it.
  3. Make a memory book from the cards, photos and stories.
  4. Turn it into a family history book. How to make a family history book walks through it.
  5. Write the longer obituary for an online memorial page, using the stories people shared. See how to write an obituary.
  6. Mark the date each year with their food, their music or a phone call to someone who misses them too.

A simple order for the gathering

PartWhat happens
ArrivalMusic playing, memory table and photos to look at, memory cards on the tables
WelcomeA family member thanks people for coming and says a few words about the person
StoriesTwo or three planned speakers, then an open microphone
Music or a readingA song or reading they loved
Toast or closing wordsA last word, and an invitation to stay, eat and keep sharing
Food and time togetherThe longest part, and often the most important

Scribe Media's suggestion. Every family and tradition is different; keep what fits and drop the rest.

Start here: pick one idea for stories, one for display and one for keeping their story afterward. Three good ideas done well are better than ten done in a rush.

Common questions

What is a celebration of life?

A gathering to remember someone who has died by celebrating how they lived. It is usually less formal than a traditional funeral, can happen at any time after the death, and often centers on stories, photos, music and the things the person loved.

What do you do at a celebration of life?

Most include a welcome, a few people sharing stories, music or readings the person loved, time to look at photos and mementos, and food. Many also invite guests to write down or record a memory, so the family can keep them.

How do you make a celebration of life personal?

Build it around what they loved and the stories people tell about them: their music, their food, their hobbies and their favorite places. An open microphone for short stories and a table of their things do more than any decoration.

When should a celebration of life be held?

Whenever suits the family. Some are held within days, others weeks or months later, on a birthday or in a season the person loved. Holding it later can give people time to travel and the family time to plan.

How can guests share memories at a celebration of life?

Give them easy ways: memory cards to fill in, a guest book with prompts, an open microphone for short stories, or a quiet corner with a phone set up to record a one-minute memory. Keep everything for the family afterward.

Sources: ideas and suggested order written by Scribe Media for this guide. Published by Scribe Media.